Kill Me With Kindness

I am sharing a post, with permission, from a Facebook group – Bug Identification and Discussion. Thank you to Sara Beth and Piucca Byrd for granting the republication of this.

When I read this post, it was a harsh eye opener that not everyone is a fan of decimating, destroying, eradicating, controlling, and killing insects. Bees, butterflies, and ladybugs are just a few of the beneficial insects. There are many more. These pollinators help with sharing plant DNA.

I am reminded that pests are just insects that are not wanted where they reside. It is truly important that we not judge those folks who have fears, and want all the insects dead. In the other sense, some individuals love all insect pests and try their darndest to protect their life and livelihood.


Dear old friends, new members, and even visitors. I’m going to beg one more time… PLEASE DO NOT SHAME, SLAM, RIDICULE, FUSS, CALL PEOPLE AWFUL THINGS, SAY THINGS THAT ARE TERRIBLE, and so on in regards to how anyone must handle a pest issue! Traps, sprays, monitoring, and so on are sometimes REQUIRED by landlords and even pest control companies to determine and monitor pest activity! Not all pests can be treated the same; nor should they be as some sprays target MANY things. Some only a few… Same goes for baits and different traps. We are here to help one another, not fuss at them!

Very recently I had one very scared and upset member contact me that was completely torn apart by people because she was told by her landlord and pest control that she had to use glue traps to determine what type of spiders are in her home and WHAT BIT HER! Not only is this sweet person on their way to the hospital because the bite is now turning black, but she feels terrible as she was torn apart by people she went to in hopes for help! She doesn’t like glue traps either. She was sad having to use them; but they had to know! This was required by the landlord for treatment to happen. 😔While I understand many have feelings against traps and even sprays, etc… Pest issues are very personal and this one seems to be an extreme infestation of spiders you don’t want chilling in your home (especially in large numbers!) Please also remember that we don’t shame or any mentioned above for even someone’s fears or even an accidental squish out of fear or a pet got something, someone accidentally squished without knowing and so on!

Even without talking traps, treating someone awful will teach them NOTHING! They will do exactly what the young lady did, and delete the post. Not ask questions, not learn about the good points of many critters, and so on. They will see no point in asking and just smash and move along. Even if we’re talking about a jumping spider… If they are fussed at, they might delete and never know that jumpers are great and harmless! They won’t know because they got fussed at and shamed on a public platform due to a fear. A fear we can help mend hopefully; if we teach in a loving manner! If we’re rude and disrespectful… We’ve lost that chance to say “happy go lucky little jumper that’s great pest control believe it or not; and will help keep you safe! Very very very rarely do that bite people, and they actually seem to love people” That alone might change someone’s total outlook. All by being kind, teaching, and knowing we’re human and we ALL HAVE FEARS! 💜

We’re here to help one another. If you see someone’s post with something dead or a method you don’t approve of, please don’t pass judgement in the comment section or message them! Just keep scrolling. It’s hard, but it helps to just not say anything than to hurt more. Kindness goes much further than being mean… That I can promise you! We’ve seen both sides of this time and time again! Kindness always helps and people even have expressed that! 💜

Thank you all for being part of our little family, we are grateful for you all. But we have to remember that sometimes, different issues call for different responses. Also that landlords and pest control companies have to know what the true issues are and how bad. In short…. Love and help more, shame less please! Have a beautiful, safe, and blessed Memorial Day weekend! 💜🙏


I am a pest management professional. I am a pest control professional. MANAGEMENT. CONTROL. No words in that career title says I kill bugs or pests. I am a Certified Applicator in four states. That means each state has approved me to manage and control these unwanted little beings.

Since my original certification in October 2008, I thought my sole job was to bring death to all of these creatures. This statement is SO untrue. I do have the credentials to apply pesticides when necessary, but at the top of my training is the principle of Integrated Pest Management(IPM). These guidelines will be used first, with kindness and compassion in mind.

Published by Melisa Arnold, A.C.E.

My career in pest management began while working in a flour mill as the “in-house” technician in 2008. I am certified in multiple states. I began working full time as a fumigation-pest control tech in 2010. I achieved my Associate Certified Entomologist (ACE) in 2018. I have a Master Tech certification from Kansas State University/Kansas Pest Control Association. I hold a Bat Management certification from NWCOA. Every day, I realize how much I DON’T KNOW. My goal for this blog is to share my every day experiences from the field and to make us all think outside the box for solutions to make pest control make sense.

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